K is for Knowledge – 21 Days of Abundance

Knowledge is the power we arm ourselves with so that we are not found guilty of committing the same crimes that will befall generations after we are gone!

Alphabet of Abundance Day 11

For us to move forwards, we are often advised to look back. You might think this a futile exercise. What is the point of drudging up past pains to feel even more sad and upset about the life you lead?  Well, I think it is more about what you do with the information that you uncover.  It is not easy to deal with the past, I get that.  However, in identifying ingrained patterns from our cultures, communities and societies, we can move forwards.  Knowledge of our past, gives us the wisdom to create a better future for ourselves, our loved ones and future generations.  Armed with wisdom we can challenge years of prejudice, racism and trauma that exists within our family units and our wider society.

In the notes for 21 Days, Deepak Chopra acknowledges that; our mothers and fathers are our fundamental archetypes that we use to construct our personality.  So, it is crucial to recognise what belief systems we have inherited from them and how these are now shaping our lives.

Today the focus is on our mother’s role in our upbringing.  As you are aware I am fiercely proud of my mum and I champion and celebrate her achievements and influence in my life, everyday. Read our very first post International Women’s Day.  Mine is the first post. 

When I was growing up, aunties would often tell me off for sunbathing. “Don’t sit in the sun, nobody wants a kali (black) bride” they would say. It always made me feel uncomfortable.  What they were “teaching” me was; a fair complexion was beautiful and the desired shade for a man – within our community.  On a trip to India once, I was told to buy Fair & Lovely – skin bleaching cream – because my skin was “too dark”. When you hear something repeated enough times, it becomes a truth, one that becomes a part of life.

I get my dark complexion from my mum.  In the past my mum used to express how unattractive she felt because of her dark complexion, in relation to friends and family.  In the moment that she put herself down like that, I would feel incredibly sad.  It was as if she unconsciously rejected herself and therefore rejected me.

This is the result of centuries of colonial rule in India.  You see, in the days of the “Great British Raj”, people from lower working-class backgrounds worked on farms, in fields and cleaned toilets.  They would be out in the sun all day.  The fair skinned Indians, would work inside the palaces and houses, saving their skin from the sun.  These fair skinned Indians still lived lesser lives than their British counterparts, who had taken up occupancy in their country, but their fair skin awarded them better servants status and certain privileges over the darker skinned servants. 

When tensions began to rise between Hindus, Muslims and Sikhs (orchestrated cleverly by the British) the British left, leaving behind a bleeding India, literally split in half.  We call this part of our “collective” history Partition. Partition is celebrated as “Independence” from British Rule.  However, Independence cost India the death of 2 million Indians and displaced a further 14 million. The Legacy of British Rule is death and destruction and a set of ingrained ideologies that deny Indians their true identity.

Black/dark skin became undesirable, as it was generally the colour of the lower working classes, whilst White/fair skin became desirable and was heralded as the sign of beauty, because of its association with the ruling classes – a sign of privilege.

By examining our own past, we allow ourselves to understand the root cause of negative behavioural patterns.  If we choose to, this discovery could help us put our whole lives into perspective, right up to and including the present moment.  It gives us the strength to shift our awareness from being passive in our lives to actively creating change. 

When we delve into our history, we stop making excuses for people, we learn to stand up for our people and we demand that history books be changed to reflect the truth, of all our people.

Awareness allows knowledge, and knowledge allows wisdom.  These are powerful tools which enable us to build a better world, one that is fuelled with compassion and kindness, full of opportunity and equality for everyone.  In fact, it becomes our responsibility to raise our consciousness to help humanity. 

The knowledge I have gained over the years has given me the wisdom to ignore the damaging advice of aunties (and that I would benefit from Fair & Lovely).  I challenge them on their prejudice, reject their conditioning and choose instead to lead with my own conscious thoughts to be a better person.  A person who stands up for justice and enables others to do the same.

For me journaling through 21 Days has been a very profound experience.  The exercises have given me the power to acknowledge where I can make a change, whether that is by challenging behaviours, choosing to be positive in the face of negativity or planting flowers that will help the bees and the ecology of our planet.  It is all about cultivating awareness and connecting with the soul of humanity of which we are all a part of. 

The function of freedom is to free someone else ~ Toni Morrison

The #BlackLivesMatter movement has reverberated around the world and its deep painful roar of enough is enough has shocked the very core of Humanity. Whether we are aware of it or not we are all part of the problem. How many times have we let the odd derogatory comment slide either because it wasn’t about us or we felt to scared to speak up? Staying silent is being complicit and aiding the disease to spread further and faster.

Donating, tweeting and signing petitions are all brilliant and help, but only if we back it up with action in our daily lives, for the rest of our lives. We must show up everyday; to support colleges who are subjected to casual racism in the office or rehearsal room, to hear young people when they speak about their experiences and enforce a change of law, strategy and system, to have those difficult conversations with family and friends and pull them up on their racist and prejudice views. Invest in businesses and arts run by our Black communities to support their growth and influence. To STOP buying from places that exploit or take advantage of people in lesser positions.

Coming from a South Asian background means we should be the first ones to step into to arena and defend our Black communities, for we too, have been on the the other end of the stick. We know how it feels. But above all – we are all born equal and we all have the right to freedom regardless of skin colour. If anything is to change then we ALL need to be ALL in – completely submerged in the fight, for each other. If I bleed you bleed.  If I heal you heal.  If I am free you are free.

I’ll leave you this Native American Proverb –

“Seek wisdom, not knowledge.  Knowledge is of the past. Wisdom is of the future.” ~Lumbee

Have a soulful Saturday


20 thoughts on “K is for Knowledge – 21 Days of Abundance

  1. This piece is powerful and so poignant for this current climate. I was moved to read about your own experiences with identity confusion and colourism within your community. Being true to your self and proud of your own skin is liberating once you have pushed passed the opposing commentary.
    I’ve been away from writing and struggled on social media as I’ve felt very disheartened by the world of late. However, I have attended marches and protests in the last few days which have rejuvenated my love for education, information and more than anything, knowledge. I have listened to countless speeches from inspiring people from the Black and Asian communities and have been grateful that they are imparting KNOWLEDGE on to the masses. It is with this knowledge that I hope each individual spreads the BLM message with a healthy and informed rhetoric. Another fantastic read, thank you xxx

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    1. She, we love hearing from you. Its good to take a break, and we’re glad you did. And that you found focus and power by going to the demos. It was really weird too – I was looking on our blogging socials and apart from one or two posts, it was as if nothing was happening outside of #writerslifts and follower goals, which I get (people are growing their businesses etc) But I couldn’t bear it. I said to the team – guys we have to address this in some way. I for one was not able to move on without connecting to what was happening around me. Sure it was hard and people, that have never had to, were looking inside for the first time and facing a kind of trauma. Which our black communities are sadly brought up in, however none of our bloggers were actually talking about it! And I thought you know what, even if we loose followers, we’ve got to address our own shortfalls and open up the floor for further discussion. It is important and it always starts with self. The last 48 have been immense and a real education. For the first time in my life, with statues being taken down, I feel like a change is on the way. I feel like people are really beginning to understand what has been going on. We can all heal from this, if we all try to understand the pain of people. People don’t come out and protest like this to cause a disturbance. We’ve been having very deep conversations within our family units too.
      I hope you are alright during all this. Take good care of yourself She. There’s a lot of love here for you xx Thank you also for stopping by and commenting xx


  2. This is a great post. “Staying silent is being complicit and aiding the disease to spread further and faster.” this resonates with me. We have to take steps to make our future better and it starts with educating people.

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    1. Thank you. We really appreciate you stopping by and thank you for engaging. WE are glad that finally such conversations can be had – there is absolute space for it. And learning can only make us better – together. x


  3. Oh I love this post, the knowledge of our past gives us wisdom to create a better future. No matter how hard felt the past is, we must all learn it and be wiser, be better than the people before. I love the ending quote. Thank you for creating this awareness.


  4. This is a great post. While many people will agree that we need to learn from our past on the major issues (wars, genocide, etc.), they fail to realize that the same concept applies to ourselves. As you said, looking back can help you not only identify negative behavioural patterns in our lives, but also to recognize the causes so that we can avoid making the same mistakes in the future. Why keep repeating negative things if we can take steps to prevent or mitigate them.

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    1. Checking ourselves seems to be the hardest thing – as we have this culture of “its not me” “I don’t do that” all the while doing the very thing we are being accused of. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. We appreciate you stopping be. Hope you are well xx


  5. It’s nice to know some history about your country. #BlackLivesMatter✊✊ I am hoping too that discrimination ends and everyone would have equal rights. This is a wonderful blog❤🖤🤎🤍

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    1. Thank Jan Paul for taking the time to comment. It is a long journey. It felt like we had to respond in some way and it’s only when we start to look through our own lives and read up on history that we are able to understand where we are today and why. Things do need to change and I deeply believe their is a shift happening. x

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      1. Thank you so much🥰😍 I really appreciate it🥰 I’m sorry, I don’t think I’m gonna post yet because right now I’m still building my site and I want it to be still resticted to my thoughts and works just for now. But I do appreciate you kind gesture🥰😍🤩

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      2. I’m sorry if I can’t participate but here are my answers🥰😍🤩🥰🤩🤩🥰🤩🤩

        1. Probably the era when the most recent supernova occured.
        2. It’s not that important to me. I belive that nothing’s permanent and everything will fade.
        3. Great. To be honest, I’m not really aware of those haha lol
        4. That color discrimination still exist.
        5. Both. But more on D.C movies

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